Building True Worth: A Call for Men to Embrace Leadership and Responsibility in Relationships

Any reasonable woman wants a man who exudes leadership and has a good sense of responsibility.

By leadership, it means someone whose ideals and values are clarified. Who can make firm decisions and follow through? And by responsibility, it means someone diligent in what he does.

I hate to always read men talk about ladies not paying attention to them because they don't have a car and all that other nonsense. If you pay good attention to this kind of men, they have low self-esteem.

Women (including the unreasonable ones) want someone they can respect because of his ideals. If you think you are respected because of money, then that's not respect. Any infant can explain that.

Many women are doing fine with their careers out there and will submit to the leadership of men who aren't yet up to their income level provided that such men embody leadership that they can respect.

As a man, take your work seriously. Grow up. Many men these days cannot make firm decisions on a lot of issues. Such a man shouldn't go into a relationship not even marry. Lead yourself first. Be physically and mentally engaged in work. Be useful to yourself. Stop being a sissy. If a lady declines your proposition or affection for a relationship, chin up, continue to work on yourself, and remain graceful. Don't start the stupid talk that she is proud (yes, people can be proud). Don't start saying it is money she is looking for. Don't start saying others are sleeping with her.

A woman doesn't have to agree to go into a relationship with you to be considered good. Someone may be good and not right for you. Some people think ladies 'respect' for their money is a wrong attribution. Covetousness is different from respect. They covet the money. If the money is absent, do they still 'respect' the person? Stop conflating respect with covetousness.

Dear young men, build yourselves. Stop being obsessed with making 'bastard money'. Just build yourself and you will be valuable enough to earn enough to take care of many things. Most of those who are rich never made becoming rich their objective. They just learned to build value and increase their capabilities.